birthday resolutions

I've been thinking a lot about what I want my 30s to be like. To that end, I've been making a few promises to myself.

#1: I don't owe everyone everything they say I do. Aside from the obvious exceptions (Haven, Duncan, et cetera), I don't really owe anyone anything. I need to stop feeling pressured into things and situations that I don't want to do or be in simply because I feel that I owe people something. I don't owe them anything. I don't owe them my time, my mental space, my heart, my commitment, my internet time - nothing. These misguided senses of obligation need to end.

#2: Write. Write, write, write. It's what I'm best at so far. And I feel so much better when I do it.

#3: I don't have to spend time around people that make me feel bad. I don't have to go to their houses, I don't have to read their journals/diaries, I don't have to respond to their e-mails. My time is valuable and my life is limited. It's crazy to waste both on people or endeavours that just make me feel terrible. There's no reason for it. I'll treasure my time and my feelings and make more appropriate choices.

#4: Limit the amount of time I spend online. Increase the amount of time I spend actually living.

#5: If someone or something isn't working for me, don't let it drag. Take the appropriate action as soon as possible and move on from there. If that means discarding, then do it quickly and keep moving.

More to come.